Meditation--Attentive Stillness-Ajahm Brahm

Meditation is the way of letting go.In meditation you let go of the complex world outside in order to reach a powerful peace within. In all types of mysticism and in many spiritual traditions,Meditation is the way of letting go.In meditation you let go of the complex world outside in order to reach a powerful peace within. In all types of mysticism and in many spiritual traditions, meditation is the path to a pure and empowered mind. The experience of this pure mind, released from the world, is incredibly blissful. It is a bliss better than sex.meditation is the path to a pure and empowered mind. The experience of this pure mind, released from the world, is incredibly blissful. It is a bliss better than sex.


The goal of this meditation is beautiful silence, stillness, and clarity of mind. If you can understand that goal, then the place to apply your effort and the means to achieve the goal become much clearer. The effort is directed to letting go, to developing a mind that inclines to abandoning.

The Buddha was saying that the major cause for attaining deep meditation and reaching these powerful states is the ability to abandon, to let go, to renounce.


Even during the beginning stages of your meditation, see if you can generate the energy of renunciation—the willingness to give things away. As you give things away in your mind, you will feel much lighter and more free. In meditation, abandoning occurs in stages, step by step.




Dear qinzhi

Do u feel connected to yourself?
Your true self.
Your true heart n soul.
Do u feel at peace with yourself?
Your past. Your dreams. Your life. Your work. Your friends . Your partner.

You should ask yourself this question once in a while.
Like me asking now: do I feel connected to myself?


How about daddy ? Does he feel connected to himself?
Does he feel connected to me?

I think not so. He seems to b an island by himself with his strength of thoughts, values n belief system.
He holds on to those very rigidly n in turn influences us.

I know the importance of connecting to oneself.
It is the basis of one’s stability n ensures his or her objectivity. If u do not connect with your true self, how do u connect with pple around him/her.

I tasted the importance of connecting/disconnecting from oneself.

When disconnected, you r basically lost in your own world. You fail to appreciate n respect your past n feels regretful about them. Sorry for oneself.

And you try to make good to compensate, sometimes over compensate for something not done well in the past.

You want with all your might n force.

And in the process, it creates excessive /unnecessary influences sometimes, burden n pressure on others.

That was me in the past.

I was totally lost in the past. Lost myself. Lost connecting with myself.

N I lost touch with my family.

But I found my connection now.

It feels great to be connected to myself.I hope daddy too.









And I text her so,

And so I learn fr u, tat if u have smtg u really like to pursue n u do the pursuit wif sincerity, there will b a guiding n support force that comes v naturally to provide aid. Fly high dear! N keep well 🙂


And so, what is my dream?
To write well. To have pple reading or following what I write bcoz my writing provides solace n comfort.
To have pple who appreciate what I write n what I do


Stronger than you know

DailyOM – Getting Ourselves Worked Up

Our capacity to cope successfully with life’s challenges far outstrips our capacity to feel nervousness. Yet in the weeks, days, and hours leading up to an event that we believe will test our limits, we can become nervous. While we may have previously regarded ourselves as equal to the trials that lie ahead, we reach a point at which they near and our anxiety begins to mount. We then become increasingly worked up, until the moment of truth arrives and we discover that our worry was all for nothing. We are almost always stronger and more capable than we believe ourselves to be. But anxiety is not rational in nature, which means that in most cases we cannot work through it using logic as our only tool. Reason can help us recognize the relative futility of unwarranted worry but, more often than not, we will find more comfort in patterns of thought and activity that redirect our attention to practical or engaging matters.

Most of us find it remarkably difficult to focus on two distinct thoughts or emotions at once, and we can use this natural human limitation to our advantage when trying to stay centered in the period leading up to a potentially tricky experience. When we concentrate on something unrelated to our worry—such as deep breathing, visualizations of success, pleasurable pursuits, or exercise—anxiety dissipates naturally. Meditation is also a useful coping mechanism as it provides us with a means to ground ourselves in the moment. Our guides can aid us by providing us with a focal point wholly outside of our own sphere.

The intense emotional flare-up you experience just before you are set to challenge yourself is often a mixture of both excitement and fear. When you take steps to eliminate the fear, you can more fully enjoy the excitement. Though you may find it difficult to avoid getting worked up, your awareness of the forces acting on your feelings will help you return to your center and accept that few hurdles you will face will be as high as they at first appear.


How mindful are you at listening?

Thoroughly how I feel!

Deep Listening is at the foundation of Right Speech. If we cannot listen mindfully, we cannot practice Right Speech.

No matter what we say, it will not be mindful, because we’ll be speaking only our own ideas and not in response to the other person. In the Lotus Sutra, we are advised to look and listen with the eyes of compassion. Compassionate listening brings about about healing. When someone listens to us this way, we feel some relief right away. A good therapist always practices deep, compassionate listening. We have to do the same in order to heal the people we love and restore communication with them.

When communication is cut off, we all suffer.

The Bodhisattva Kwan Yin is the one who hears the cries of the world. She has the quality of listening deeply, without judging or reacting. When we listen with our whole being, we can defuse a lot of bombs. If the other person feels that we are critical of what they are saying, their suffering will not be relieved.

Deep listening nourishes both speaker and listener.

—From The Heart of the Buddha’s Teachings by Thich Nhat Hanh


The Places We Go

Love this!

February 21, 2012

Often it takes something major to wake us up as we struggle to maintain an illusion of control. In life, most of us want things to go to the places we have envisioned ourselves going. We have plans and visions, some of them divinely inspired, that we want to see through to completion. We want to be happy, successful, and healthy, all of which are perfectly natural and perfectly human.

So when life takes us to places we didn’t consciously want to go, we often feel as if something has gone wrong, or we must have made a mistake somewhere along the line, or any number of other disheartening possibilities.

This is just life’s way of taking us to a place we need to go for reasons that go deeper than our own ability to reason.

These hard knocks and trials are designed to shed light on our unconscious workings and deepen our experience of reality. Often it takes something major to wake us up, to shake us loose from our ego’s grip as it struggles to maintain an illusion of control.

It is loss of control more than anything else that humbles us and enables us to see the big picture. It reminds us that the key to the universe lies in what we do not know, and what we do know is a small fraction of the great mystery in which we live. This awareness softens and lightens us, as we release our resistance to what is.

Another gift gleaned from going to these seemingly undesirable places is that, in our response to difficulty, we can see all the patterns and unresolved emotional baggage that stand in the way of our unconditional joyfulness.

Joy exists within us independently of whether things go our way or not. And when we don’t feel it, we can trust that we will find it if we are willing to surrender to the situation, moving through it as we move through our difficult feelings.

We can take our inspiration from any fairy tale that finds its central character lost in a dark wood, frightened and alone. We know that the journey through the wood provides its own kind of beauty and richness.

On the other side, we will emerge transformed, lighter and brighter, braver and more confident for having moved through that darkness.




昨天回marine crescent


让我想去make sense

It appears to me/the feeling is like a dispersal
A dispersal of a point of tension which has become a weakest link in the rosary

I almost felt like that in my body as well
Like a tension/kink released
It sort of felt good

It was a rosary that was given to me in 2006(?) when I first had my panic attack
I liked it alot of its jade green colour n the coolness it exudes

It has accompanied me n carried me far, it helped me tide over when I was most confused

Yin gave it to me

N it was given to her

It must have given a lot of help to quite many pple

I have always thought of giving it away to someone who needs it more than I do

For the rosary to provide solace n peace to another who needs it more

And I think the time will come soon

Happy losar

May I seek forgiveness for all the wrong I have done, in
Body action mind or speech
Now or in the past
Here or elsewhere

I sincerely seek forgiveness for all the wrong n pain I have done n inflicted
I seek forgiveness from all whom I have done wrong to

With sincere gratitude
I thank my presence n share this gratitude by striving
to be the better n best of myself

may the new year bring peace love good health to all sentient beings