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Revisiting wisdom:轮回是你的心,涅槃也是你的心

Dearies

We should do this exercise as much as we can

To rest n be at complete ease in awareness

Rather than to be lured by our habits n indulge in emotions

This forms the basis of “coming full circle”.

日常生活的过程
最好的方式,就是仔细观察一个喜悦或愤怒的动作。检视那个动作之后,你将发现在任何情绪生起之前,总是有一个空间或缺口。在情绪的能量有机会生起之前的孕育时刻,是一个清净本初觉醒的时刻,如果我们能够的话,就可以在此刻瞥见真正的心性。若能如此,在一瞬间,无明的符咒就会被破解,我们完全解脱了执著的任何需要或可能,甚至连「执著」的观念都变成是荒谬多余的。在那个缺口的「空白」中,可以发现卸下任何观念、架构或概念后的喜悦。然而我们却逃避它,反而在根深蒂固的习气驱策下,接受熟悉的、具有安慰作用的情绪发作,执著于这种不可靠的安全感。

因此,这就是从心性生起原本清净的能量凝结成情绪形式的过程,而它本具的清净性就被我们的轮回观所污染和曲解,形成持续不断的日常散乱和迷惑。

如果确实检视生命中的各个层面,就可以发现我们在睡梦中,或在意念和情绪中,如何一再重复与各种中阴相同的过程。

不管是生是死,在意识的各种层次中,我们一次又一次地历经各种中阴境界的过程。而中阴教法告诉我们,正是这个事实提供了我们无限解脱的机会。教法显示,中阴的特性、形式和独特的过程,提供给我们的,不是解脱的机会 ,就是继续迷惑的可能。因为整个过程的每一部分,同时交给我们解脱的机会和迷惑的机会。

中阴教法为我们打开一道门,告诉我们如何走出那无尽的生死轮回、那生生世世反覆不已的无明。更告诉我们,在这个生死不已的中阴过程里,只要能够认证并安住于心性之中,或甚至只要能够对我们的心有某种程度的控制,就能够通过那道门,走向解脱。

禅定的最深目标,是为了能够安住在本觉的状态中,藉以体悟不管心中生起什么意念都只不过是本觉的展现,如同太阳和它的百万光芒是一体而不可分离的。诚如泽理纳哲朗措对于法性中阴的描述:「对于任何现象的生灭或好坏的执著,都是你的心。这个心……本身就是法身的自我光芒。」
当你在本觉的状态中时,当意念和情绪生起时,你要正确地认证它们的本来面目和来源;如此,则不管生起的是什么,都是那个智慧的自我光芒。不过,如果你失去了本觉原始的,纯净的觉察力,而无法认证生起的一切,它就跟你分开,有所区隔了。它会继续形成我们所谓的「念头」或情绪,这就是二元对立的产生。为了避免这一点及其结果,就要像泽理纳哲朗措所说的:「不要执著意念的生起,不要由此形成概念,不要接受或拒绝它们:这就是法性中阴的修行法要。」

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Love was never taken away

Dearies

I thought offering you a leaf from our marriage would help u deal with your own relationships.

I have been feeling giddy n daddy never asked me how I was till today.

Then when he did, he says all I need is a massage.

I said I need love.

Daddy says love was never taken away from me.

And I think my replies r full of wisdom:

Love must blossom, grow n strengthen to nourish a family. And, it needs to b expressed. I think the level of expression, understanding n communication could have been better. Only then can there b some kind of natural appreciation . ESP with kids, only when we r at harmony, the love will flow n nourish them naturally. You need to show it to me n to the kids. Then they will show us. Basic things like kissing gd night or saying I love u. Like showing care n concern. We all want to b loved dearly. It’s just that simple.

We have to learn to keep a dating relationship alive. That is the basis or foundation of our other roles as parents, husband n wife, soulmates etc

The world is so big , but it is oso so small Bcoz we only have each other ultimately.

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Spinning head n realization

My head is heavier than the rest of the body.
It has been spinning since Sunday . The balance inside me can tip anytime, sometimes when I lie down. Sometimes when I m sitting. Sometimes when I m standing. I seem to be falling sideways.
There seems to be a clutch somewhere , locking me.
My breath is heavy.
My eyes r droopy.
I m panting n sleepy.
I m So so so tired.
Feels like I m going to shut down.

It’s been such a long while since I felt this way.
What is happening? Why?

As I search for answers, an inner voice asked my to search inwards:

-have I taxed myself too much? I have not taken good care of myself, I did not listen to my body whilst taking care of children.
For some time, I felt quite alone at managing the kids
I think I need help from the daddy to share my load. Yes!

– what is thrown off balance ? I guessed the anger got the better of me. Anger towards daddy’s ways n his lack of explanation n communication with me.

I think I used up too much energy unwittingly.then I was Distressed at not being understood.
Deep down, my desire is for daddy to b caring to me. To be gentle n understanding just like when we were dating.

No wonder when I visited ah ma, she reminds me, that I should reach a consensus with daddy that daddy should b fully understanding of me n take better care of me than before.

-then awareness told me to stop worrying n just use awareness : observe that, befriend that feeling

-I m not going to use the same reactions as that of the past

– it’s coming full circle: I m just acquainting with it one last time n I m going to use my resolve to face it unlike the past

Thank u spinning head.
For strengthening my practice! I m determined .

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Change

There was one day when I felt a change in my body.

that change was gentle as can be, nonetheless , I felt it

I feel my body opening up, changing for the better.

Loving it

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Words of Wisdom

If you met you, will you like you

If u want something u have never had, then u have to do something u have never done.

U will find that it is necessary to let things go : simply for the reason that they r heavy.

To b outstanding , get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

If in ten years, you were to look at yourself today, what would you change?

To become optimistic, practice being optimistic. To become brave, practice daily bravery. Etc

You become like the five people you spend the most time with. Choose wisely.

Whatever comes up for you, just be open n present to it and let it go.

Do u have time to listen to yourself ? Your suffering? Your difficulties n your deepest desires?

Don’t let yourself be controlled by three things: your past. people. money.

帮不到的,我们学会祝福。
回不去的,我们学会接受。
得不到的,我们学会知足。
放不下的,我们学会看透。

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Get out of your own way

When you find yourself facing obstacles that appear to be blocking you from your goals, it is important to try not to get discouraged. It can be easy to feel “stuck” or that “life” is creating circumstances preventing you from getting what you want. And while it is easy to look at everyone and everything outside of ourselves for the problem, perhaps even wanting to “get rid” of the person, object, or circumstance we may feel is blocking us, sometimes the best course of action to take may be to look inside ourselves first.

It is amazing how often we can get in our own way without even being aware that we are doing so. Even though we truly want to succeed, there are many reasons why we may sometimes block our own efforts. It may be that we are afraid to succeed, so we subconsciously create circumstances to keep ourselves stuck. Or it may even be that we are afraid that we will succeed, so we block ourselves by making the achievement of our goals more difficult than they really are. We may even approach our goals in a way that keeps creating the same unsuccessful results.

If you believe that you’ve been standing in your own way, you may want to take a piece of paper and record how you’ve done so. Write down the choices you’ve made that have hindered your efforts and the fears that may have prompted you to make these decisions. Take note of any thoughts and feelings that arise. It is important to be gentle and compassionate during this process. Try not to blame yourself for getting in your own way. Remember the choices we make always are there to serve us, until it is time to let them go. When you are finished, throw the paper away while setting an intention that you are getting rid of any obstacles you’ve created to block yourself. You can then let yourself start again with a clean slate. Doubts and fears are going to be natural, but with this new awareness, you should be able to prevent yourself from subconsciously thwarting yourself. Besides, now that you’ve decided to get out of your own way, the part of you that has always wanted to succeed can now do so.

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日落。经过

昨天看到这一段:
困难困难,困在家里就难。
出路出路,出去走走就有路。

昨天带两个宝贝去机场走走,就有此收获。
在赶着送乘客回家的巴士上,我拥有一刻沉淀的时间。

回家的路上,在巴士上看到斜阳。

突有所感。

看到新闻中有些关于饮食的消息,很想参与。很想报道,做发布的那个人。有些美味,看了,蠢蠢欲动。我也可以是那个品尝的人。

我曾经是。

谁会知道?谁会体会到我一样的心情?

然后看到怀中熟睡的怀皓。
想起他的笑。
一个笑,更值。抵过各种美味。
然后看到斜阳。就像太阳见证过一天的演变和发生。

不用谁记得。不需要其他额外的acknowledgement。

自己经验过的,就像太阳一样。并不是日落了,就是没有了。

<西藏生死书>有此一句:你总得吃睡拉,这些都无可避免。此外,其他的就不干你的事了。— 贝珠仁波切