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7years 1month

沁芝7岁一个月了。已经是小美女一个。

好标致!

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daddy提醒,沁芝三四岁的时候,很喜欢亲mommy。但现在总是皓皓在亲。要学习顾及沁芝的感受。

沁芝长大了。

看到沁芝很多地方和我很像。胆小。没有自信。但沁芝啊,你一定要相信。你有无限的潜能。

不要担心不要害怕。

你绝对可以。

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这一天,去舅公家拜年。然后去阿祖家,之前有点时间,我们和阿妹姨姨、庚延舅舅和karyn姐姐午餐。玩成一团,沁芝很乐

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这一天正月二十五。沁芝的农历生日。我们带姨姨婆婆、davina姐姐去晚餐。之后去给沁芝买蛋糕。然后回家给沁芝唱生日歌

 

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周末,dandelyn带大家去吃,沁芝皓皓也去

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带沁芝去采访香港冰棒品牌,她有口福。之后去吃寿司晚餐

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很快学校加起来了,沁芝去了pasir ris住了一个星期。然后假期过去。

宝贝,mommy没有在假期的时候给你任何的额外功课,不像是其他家长那样。这一点对mmmy来说,也是一个struggle。要不要你多做一点呢?

但能要你做多少呢》多少都不足够。

最后,只是想让你过愉快的假期。

让你记得假期里你在阿姨家趴趴走,阿姨带你出门吃吃喝喝,和阿姨一家互动的时光。简单快乐的时光。因为mommy相信,这些都将成为你宝贵的回忆。

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A beautiful letter

Dear Little Daughter:

I have waited for you to get well settled before writing. By this time I hope some of the strangeness has worn off and that my little girl is working hard and regularly.

Of course, everything is new and unusual. You miss the newness and smartness of America. Gradually, however, you are going to sense the beauty of the old world: its calm and eternity and you will grow to love it.

Above all remember, dear, that you have a great opportunity. You are in one of the world’s best schools, in one of the world’s greatest modern empires. Millions of boys and girls all over this world would give almost anything they possess to be where you are. You are there by no desert or merit of yours, but only by lucky chance.

Deserve it, then. Study, do your work. Be honest, frank and fearless and get some grasp of the real values of life. You will meet, of course, curious little annoyances. People will wonder at your dear brown and the sweet crinkley hair. But that simply is of no importance and will soon be forgotten. Remember that most folk laugh at anything unusual, whether it is beautiful, fine or not. You, however, must not laugh at yourself. You must know that brown is as pretty as white or prettier and crinkley hair as straight even though it is harder to comb. The main thing is the YOU beneath the clothes and skin — the ability to do, the will to conquer, the determination to understand and know this great, wonderful, curious world. Don’t shrink from new experiences and custom. Take the cold bath bravely. Enter into the spirit of your big bed-room. Enjoy what is and not pine for what is not. Read some good, heavy, serious books just for discipline: Take yourself in hand and master yourself. Make yourself do unpleasant things, so as to gain the upper hand of your soul.

Above all remember: your father loves you and believes in you and expects you to be a wonderful woman.

I shall write each week and expect a weekly letter from you.

Lovingly yours,

Papa

From Sociologist and civil rights pioneer W.E.B. Du Bois to his daughter Yolande.

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Happy Birthday Mummy!

Dear Mummy

Happy Birthday!

Every year this time, I would be wondering where you are as I write to you this Happy Birthday note.

I know you will hear this, irregardless where you are.

Because you gave birth to me.

I have so much to say to you, there was so much learning in the year that has passed. It was steep the learning curve and i m glad i persevered .

I met important people who would guide me and point things out to me, thru them, i identified myself, and how much i wanted to be like them.

I also met important people who taught me about life the other way round. Thru them, i recognised i didn’t want to be like them.

Either way, there was a lot to be learnt.

Your 2 grandchildren are lovely, sometimes i wonder how nice if you would be able to meet them.

May you be well and happy, Mummy. And continue to guide me, protect me and bless me from above.

Your girl.

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Slow Down Mummy

Love this!

Slow down mummy, there is no need to rush,
slow down mummy, what is all the fuss?
Slow down mummy, make yourself a cup tea.
Slow down mummy, come and spend some time with me.

Slow down mummy, let’s put our boots on and go out for a walk,
let’s kick at piles of leaves, and smile and laugh and talk.
Slow down mummy, you look ever so tired,
come sit and snuggle under the duvet and rest with me a while.

Slow down mummy, those dirty dishes can wait,
slow down mummy, let’s have some fun, let’s bake a cake!
Slow down mummy I know you work a lot,
but sometimes mummy, its nice when you just stop.

Sit with us a minute,
& listen to our day,
spend a cherished moment,
because our childhood is not here to stay! x

Poem by Rebekah Knight at https://www.facebook.com/slowdownmummy1 — with @Rebekah Knight.1 and @slowdownmummy1.

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农历新年之二

年的味道

是一家人,人数到齐

用一双筷子,捞起心的希望

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年的味道

是想到妈妈、gorgor以前会让我在除夕夜穿上新的睡衣
就是也让我的两个宝贝穿上
跟着新衣服的味道睡觉

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年的味道

是在新年到来的时候,把心意包进红包封套
想着收到的人,一边数心一边微笑
一开年便好温暖

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年的味道

是到奶妈家喝汤吃饭

味道会让人打从心底暖起来

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年的味道

就是去阿嬷家跟她老人家拜年

就是听她训话,还是觉得幸福和温暖

阿嬷听说我还在喂奶,生气说要停!她说我都喂皓皓喂那么久,自己都干枯了。

她说,在乳房擦伤虎标万金油,让皓皓别再喝奶。

阿嬷说,不要玩玩。要懂得照顾自己,因为妈妈身体好,才是孩子的福气,才能照顾好孩子

我听着,眼泪都快要流出来

阿嬷好像的话,是一句句心疼的抚慰,安慰着我的心

我喂奶,我为孩子付出

从来没有要求什么回报

也没有希望谁肯定

也不寄望/奢望什么

但阿嬷那几句,有点凶、有点坚硬,有点力道,

都是因为她懂。

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在一起

忙不过来
气喘吁吁
想看孩子
打开相簿
看到笑脸
脸部松了
心也放开
谢谢宝贝
妈妈爱你

我看着照片,
看到最快乐的自己
是跟孩子在一起
看到孩子最快乐的时候
也是和自己在一起的时候。

那天采访碰到一名厨师
他说,40岁戒掉牛肉羊肉和酒
因为自己最喜欢的往往会害了一个人。

我突然想到我爱写。

然后gorgor打电话给我。
听到我还没到家。
语气里的疼惜
让我无比温暖。
一下子把我绷紧的神经弄松了。