Facebook has been such a part of my life, sometimes, so much wisdom is in there, well, at least on my own page.
Looking back at 2013, brought me so much joy, especially so because of the lovely moments i snapped of precious dearies haohao n qinzhi.
May 2013 bring us fresh energies, inspirations, perspectives. May we create new pathways n better ourselves, n there, make good 2013 . Happi new year !
Me: Can i …… after ……..?
qinzhi daddy: Up to u.
lovely Music to my ears.
外面找不到的味道。(a bowl of noodles by ah hui)
Mister Ye is a good 8 days late. But yesterday he was good to me. And he will be my constant reminder to not fall back on habits, but rather, to always attempt a new pathway. Presenting an epidural free baby n a somewhat new me.
Likes!!! (daddy feeding haohao)
One ST headline today: “Enough land for 700000 more homes.”
The planners don’t realize , what we need is space.
The babe feeding the baby
The best lessons don’t come in words nor do they come in books. They appear just before us, in seemingly unimportant moments that just pass u by. This lady who hasn’t had any education n slogged hard for her life taught me most about love n devotion. It is not thank u but : I m so grateful we had the chance to meet in this lifetime. (gorgor patting haohao )
When we become parents, we become better children.
same same but different (1 month old)
A year, after all, is just a collection of months. A month is a collection of days. A day is a collection of hours. An hour is a collection of minutes. So how we are going to spend our year depends on how we live each moment, each breath, each heartbeat. So I want you to take care of each moment, each breath, each heartbeat. Take care of the present moment. If you want to make this year a positive one, use each moment well. If you want to change, you have to transform this present moment. Then the change will take place properly, as we learn to live each moment properly.－－－Tsokyni Rinpoche
My space is small. My life, big.
Better to know a few things which are good and necessary than many things which are useless and mediocre.—–Leo Tolstoy
It is so easy to forget How precious each n every one of us can be
And so, Its been 2 months (haohao at 2 months)
same same but different@ 2 months
“You must take life the way it comes at you and make the best of it.”
― Yann Martel, Life of Pi
We should make ourselves stop trying to explain our own difficulties. Our first impulse is to try to account for them, figure out why what has happened did happen. Sometimes such an effort is beneficial: more often it is distinctly harmful. It leads to introspection, self-pity, and vain regret; and almost invariably it creates within us a dangerous mood of confusion and despair. Many of life’s hard situations cannot be explained. They can only be endured, mastered, ad gradually forgotten. Once we learn this truth, once we resolve to use all our energies managing life rather than trying to explain life, we take the first and most obvious step toward significant accomplishment.—-James Gordon Gilkey
我笑你的笑，哭你的哭，睡你睡的觉。(haohao asleep in my arms)
The Double rainbow brought much joy. Simple Pure joy.(pix of a double rainbow outside my kitchen window)
Dad trying to make a purchase at the cashier…
Qinzhi: daddy, I want to wee wee
Dad: can u wait a while?
Qinzhi : I can wait but my wee wee cannot!
Just believe u can do it.
qinzhi/huaihao: same same but different @ 3 mths
Rainbow after the rain
After all those terrorizing acts, he is an angel again! (haohao asleep in my arms)
Yes, children do bring with them lots of joy n happiness, but equally, they give mothers lots of sleepless nights, fear n worry filled days. On Mother’s Day, I sincerely pray that all mothers be free of that. As well, all children be well n happy.
Flying off (qinzhi n daddy flying a kite at Marina Barrage)
sun in her cheeks (pretty qinzhi with rosy cheeks )
Broken toys can be fixed overnight, but harsh words (especially tone of voice) break a child’s heart quicker than it can be mended.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. ~ Dalai Lama
same same but different @ 4 months
Eat. Sleep n live like a baby. (haohao asleep in my arms)
欣赏一首诗，卫塞节充实！一棵开花的树诗●席慕蓉 图●小邝Ace Khong如何让你遇见我
: ) (haohao kisses qinzhi)
This paragraph from DailyOM hit a note in my heart.“Yet the truth is that it is up to each one of us to decide what that destiny will be.While manifesting your destiny starts with knowing what you want and believing you can attain your goals, there are then the actions that must be taken and the decisions to be made before your destiny can truly happen.When you take responsibility for fulfilling your destiny and begin acting with the intention of doing so, you not only take fate into your own hands, but also you become the hands of your own fate.Doorways inevitably open for you to step through, and every choice you make can be a creative act toward realizing your goals and dreams.You begin to follow your instincts and intuition, recognize opportunities when they are presented to you, and seize those golden moments. You also begin to recognize the decisions that may not serve this greater picture and can more easily push them aside.”
Now I know what it feels like to be poor in the pocket but rich at heart.
Reminds me of my own Paris trip…n I so want to do it again
Left right nostril breathing, I miss my yoga!
Sleep baby sleep !(haohao asleep in his pink chair)
Read baby Read! (reading The Apple to haohao )
Finally asleep After a good deal of “playing” since 230am! (haohao asleep in his pink chair, finger to his mouth)
Crawl baby Crawl (haohao crawling on my bed)
If you think that happiness means total peace, you will never be happy. Peace comes from the acceptance of the part of you that can never be at peace. It will always be in conflict. If you accept that, everything gets a lot better.—–Joss Whedon
Embracing our Inner Contradictions
突然問了小法王一句：『我可以抱你嗎？』只有七歲的小法王靜靜地回答：【 你可以抱住天空嗎？ 】
What can b so yummy? (haohao sucking his lips)
it is vague yet not. Huaihao so v sound asleep on my left shoulder , my head tilted leftwards tucking him in, snug n tight. Then i hear a voice telling me, how beautiful! And i think i caught hold of something eternal in those fleeting moments.
S is for… …(the day my 6 month long sabbatical bagan)
Don’t let your past be controlled by 3 things, your past, people, money.
The main Bible passage for sabbatical concepts is Genesis 2:2-3, in which God rested (literally, “ceased” from his labour) after creating the universe, and it is applied to people (Jew and Gentile, slave and free) and even to beasts of burden in one of the Ten Commandments (Exodus 20:8-11, reaffirmed in Deuteronomy 5:12-15).
Be careful with your words, once they are spoken, they can only be forgiven not forgotten.
Do you have the time to listen to yourself, your suffering, your difficulties, and your deepest desire?
Being present n open to the now
Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche
The real point of meditation is to rest in bare awareness whether anything occurs or not. Whatever comes up for you, just be open and present to it, and let it go. And if nothing occurs, or if thoughts and so on vanish before you can notice them, just rest in that natural clarity.
“The Joy of Living”
From The Book:The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari• There is a bright side to the darkest circumstance – if you have the courage to look for it.• There are no mistakes in life, only lessons.• Start to condition your mind to translate every event into a positive, empowering one; you will banish worry forever. You will stop being a prisoner of your past. You will become the architect of your future.• From tonight onwards, forget about the past. Dare to dream that you are more than the sum of your current circumstances. Expect the best.
• All lasting inner change requires time and effort. Persistence is the mother of personal change.• Either I control my mind or it controls me.• Never forget that there is power in silence and stillness.• A strong, disciplined mind, which anyone can cultivate through daily practice can achieve miracles. If you want to live to its fullest-care for your thoughts.
You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with. Choose carefully.
The woman is the reflection of her man
When i saw you, i fell in love, and you smiled, because you knew.—William Shakespeare
I m proud of my heart, its been played, stabbed, cheated,burned and broken, but somehow, still works.
If, in 10 years, you were to look back at your actions of today, what would you change? Always be asking yourself in terms of your goals and how you want to live.
To become optimistic, practice being optimistic. Be become brave, practice daily bravery. To become patient, practice patience etc
If u met u, will u like u?
I don’t think I can quit this (ah hue’s home cooked noodle that i had since young)
all time favourite! (ah hui’s home cooked tao kee dessert )
Be with someone who won’t stay mad at you, who can not stand not talking to you, and who’s afraid of losing you.
沁芝／怀皓：same same but different @ 5 months
Forgive them, even if they are not sorry.
When we come back again, n again, n again to something frustrating, it is really because we have not learnt THAT lesson. We ought to.
There comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will.
“Be in love with your love. Every minute of it” Jack Kerouac
I think at that moment in my life, I found a peculiar path: To continually discard a lot of the things that I knew how to do in favor of finding out what I didn’t. —- Milton Glaser
2 things help success in life: the way u manage when u have nothing. the way you behave when you have everything.
When we lose sight of a promise, we also lose that bit of ourselves.
Failures are part of life. if you don’t fail, you don’t learn, if you don’t learn, you never change.
Purity (haohao asleep in my arms)
Your aim should be to be doing something you love, in a place you love with people you love.
You will learn that it is necessary to let things go, simply because they are heavy.
If you want something you have never had, you have to do something you have never done.
To live, is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.
From The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari:Stay focussed on your life work and on giving selfless service to others. The Universe will take care of everything else. This is one of nature’s truest laws. Never regret what has happened in the past. There is no chaos in this Universe. There is a purpose for everything that has ever happened to you, and everything that will happen to you. every experience offfers lesson. So stop majoring in minor things. Enjoy your life.
The meaning of life is to find your gift; the purpose of life is to give it away.——– Pablo Picasso
Not disturbed by blocked nose n phlegmy cough (haohao with a pink hanky wrapping his head, lying on his pink chair, smiling)
Thanks for bringing the world to me. And myself closer to me. And so, now, it’s time to let u go. My Alain Mikli. (my broken pair of glasses)
This clip touched me somewhat—-I guess.. It’s that sense of freedom u arrive at, doing what you love, where u love it.
All these flavors I grew up with r not only comforting for the tummy. They r oh so good for the soul as well! (ngoh hiang, giam cai ark, lor bak)
Teaching of the day by the paediatrician:”let go of all the preconceptions about good, bad, normal.”
沁芝／怀皓same same but different @ 6 months
Happiness does not depend on what you have who you are but what you think .——-Lama Tenpa
Courage is being yourself everyday in a world that tells you to be someone else.
More and more, memories become locked in flavors. And so this rare find here, unlocked a certain precious Paris i kept somewhere. (Alain Millat Pear summer nectar)
i think we like to complicate things when it is really quite simple, find what it is that makes you happy and who it is that makes you happy, n you r set. Promise.
yoga-ing (haohao in yoga position.)
More yoga: happy baby pose
“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
Potato soup sans cream/milk. Baked carrot fries.
It is amazing how the most seemingly-unimportant details in life, show up afterwards. We had better take care of the littlest of all things.
Happiness is waiting 4 mins for one piping hot peanut pancake, prepared by a certain hawker uncle , who has been revising the trade for 26 years. (peanut pancake)
Happiness is painting a lollipop for the child in me on a hot afternoon.
“when you say yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to yourself.” Paulo Coelho
Home made veggie cleaner
1 Tablespoon lemon juice
2 Tablespoons distilled white vinegar
1 cup cold tap water .
Mix, shake well, and apply to your produce. Rinse with tap water before cooking or serving.
You must believe that your past is not your future. You are not stuck or defined by tradition and you don’t have to listen to what others tell you to do. Focus on the bright things, the ones that bring a smile to your face. Find that passion and focus.
The only person you are destined to become, is the person you decide to be. ___Ralph Waldo Emerson
Life happens to us when we happen to life in the Now.
To kick start the day (strawberries, blueberries, blackberries)
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change, Dr Wayne Dyer
Happiness is hearing that the daddy has a day off tomorrow and we can pop by qinzhi’s school to catch her sing “Singapura” on stage.
how clever BA.
it isn’t what happens in your life that matters most, it i what your heart does with it, and what together they learn from it.
You can Open your can of happiness. And Then YOU scoop out the sweeeeet nectar of life…(Mikuni’s dessert in a bottle.)
Have the courage to follow your heart n intuition.They somehow already know what you truly want to become.
I was a bully who pushed and pressured and hurried a small child who simply wanted to enjoy life.
allow the child in each of us to set the pace. allow our children to set the pace. not US.
Don’t let a bad moment, bad incident or a bad day make you feel like you have a bad life.
Talking, time, and faith build strong relationships.
A bridge of death that became the bridge of life.
Yoga-ing: Perfect cat n cow pose! (haohao on his fours)
Happiness is a baguette
Life is about getting the basics right. (lemon in warm water in the morning)
Got questions? Silence your mind and consult your heart. Its your direct line to the God within you.
Happiness is a bottle of Alain Milliat nectar. (Merlot Red Grape Juice)
You were not the same people when you got married… U re-choose each other every day
从什么时候开始，你变成了我的偶像。(haohao asleep on the sofa)
沁芝／怀皓：same same but different @ 7 months
My puppy (qinzhi drinking water on the bridge to one fullerton)
Happiness is listening to QinZhi go :”mommy, today Lucas hold my hand n I m happy, he is a good boy.”
You got to trust me enough to respect every word I say. AND Yes, I do mean, e-v-e-r-y word.
You were given this life because you were strong enough to live it.
When we feel overcome by a situation, although it may be true that the situation is there all around us, we can still mentally lift ourselves above it, and take a second look from that new perspective. For example, if we feel as if we are flailing in the water and drowning in a problem, we can try to imagine ourselves sitting on a mountaintop and surveying our situation in the valley below. This gives us a different way of seeing things, and can reveal new options for responding.-Karma
Me: 姨姨says u r all grown up.
Qinzhi: o, that’s good to hear. (qinzhi sitting pretty on the floor in a laduree x uniqlo tee shirt)
Happiness is really a good night of sleep . That’s all.
(haohao on sofa, reaching up to get toy)
Changed bedsheets. Magic cleaned. Washed n ironed. Supermarketed twice. Can’t all these count towards GDP? They are totally heart n time consuming effort.
我中有你；你中有我。(balsamic vinegar in olive oil)
我拿什么奉献给你，我的小孩？(haohao asleep in my arms)
4 當有人逼迫你去突破自己，你要感恩她，她是你生命中的貴人,也許你會因此而改變和蛻變 。
今天皓皓教的：一步一步来。(haohao making his baby steps on the sofa,r eating out to toys)
The rain reminded me to rain on myself once in a while. To cleanse away any obsolete mindset, behavior, energies, relationships, thoughts, feelings, pathways. I m so loving the rain.
他微笑，让我重新认识微笑。 (haohao smiling)
Choosing a read (haohao choosing a book on the sofa)
Entertaining mommy (bib on haohao’s head)
“suffering breaks him open and moves him to change his ways.”—– Pico Iyer “The Value of Suffering”, NYT
宝贝，记住这样的笑。(haohao ‘s sunshine smile)
Taxi, where r u? (haohao, all wrapped up in a scarf, waiting for a taxi)
No matter how dirty your past is, your future is still spotless.
THE BUMBLEBEEAccording to scientists, the bumblebee’s body is too heavy and its wing span too small. Aerodynamically, the bumblebee cannot fly. But the bumblebee doesn’t know that and it keeps flying.
When you don’t know your limitations, you go out and surprise yourself. In hindsight, you wonder if you had any limitations. The only limitations a person has are those that are self-imposed. Don’t let education put limitations on you.
沁芝／怀皓same same but different @ 8 months